Yesterday I was with my friends for dinner at Taco Bar. As soon as we ordered dinner at the waitress, my phone beeped. I knew exactly that this is a message on FB, because of that sound. Girls were talking about something and I was listening them ... or maybe not. I automatically reached into my purse for the phone, began to read, and respond to the message. Then I heard someone. Do I really hear someone?! Yes. Does she speak to me or someone else? Of course, she´s talking to me. It´s Taryn!
Me: (the phone is still in my hand) "Yes??? What did you say???"
Taryn: "Put your phone down and talk to us."
Me: I don´t know what to say ... I´m a little embarrassed, I can do only: "OK."
I let them know that I´m not interested. I put away my phone immediately and joined again the conversation with the girls.
It´s counterproductive - I´m having dinner with Taryn and a new au pair. I want to know what´s new etc. and rather prefer talking to someone else?! So sad :-(
I know I´m doing that ... You are doing it ... He´s doing it ... She is doing it too ... They are doing it... Well, (almost all) people are doing it!
When I look at us - au pair - maybe it happens more often than to other people. We live thousands of miles away and only one thing is - we want to be in touch with our loved ones. When we have evening, our close friends get up, so it´s perfect time for new conversations. Unfortunately it gives a boost to the disappearance of real conversations.
The true meaning from meeting with friends, colleagues, parents or acquaintances is lost. We are "running away" into the world of virutal conversation, instead having a real talk.
How can feel the people sitting with us at one table? Put yourself for a moment into their roles. What would you say if someone from table stood beside the table and started doing squats or other exercise? Probably you would not like it and you would tell him something. Do you still think that playing with phone is cool? No, it´s not ... it´s exactly the same. You ignore people around you and just focus on your smartphone.
Why is it happening? Are we afraid of a real conversation? Do we prefer virtual life?
NO!!! We are ADDICTED!!!
What does it mean? The addiction is a condition when someone is subject to any circumstance or situation that needs (or think he/she needs it) to his/her existence. source: wikipedia
Let's be honest with ourselves. Who can imagine a day without your phone in these days? (Almost) nobody! I don´t think I can. The first thing, I do every morning when I wake up, is that I check what´s new on my phone. Do you do it too? Yes?! So then you are addicted as I do. :-(
You may not know, but using the phone during a conversation with other people is equally inappropriate such as eating your nails. Also interesting is that you can compare phone addiction to any other addrions such as drung, alcohol etc. Isn´t it terrible? YES IT IS!!!
Get over until it´s time. Think back and try to change something. You can start as I do.
I´m playing a game with Taryn since today. When we go somewhere for a meal or drink, we can´t use our phones. Who uses it, pays all bill. Who will be the first payer? Let´s see. I hope not me. Well, let us be surprised. :-)
Let me know when you will start.
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